Random Thoughts from the Road

As I write this, Dan and I are driving uphill—headed toward 9660’ in elevation—somewhere in eastern Wyoming, winding past Meadowlark Lake and tall cliffs interspersed with evergreen forests and into Big Horn County. We just passed a sign indicating “Moose next 5 miles.” So naturally we’re watching for big horn sheep and moose.

We’re on Day Seven of a three-week road trip in our adventure van. We left Cody, WY, a couple hours ago after two nights stay in a shady RV park. There’s so much to see and do in this small Western town. We toured the Bill Cody Museum, took in a cowboy dinner show, and attended the rodeo (Cody is, after all, the Rodeo Capital of the World).

Those first few nights we stayed at RV parks in Glenns Ferry above the Snake River in Idaho, Craters of the Moon National Park, and Teton National Park before driving through Yellowstone to Cody.

Some of my favorite things about the trip so far are:

• Exploring new territory
  Dan loves the great outdoors and browsing around in new places as much as I do. We’re camping, traversing new trails, and before the trip is over, will be paddling in icy-clear waters.

• This plan-as-you-go journey
  Not that Dan doesn’t have a rough idea where we’re going and what we want to see and do along the way, but he hasn’t booked too many nights ahead. We’re staying flexible. “If we like someplace, we can stay longer,” he says.

I think there are several factors when it comes to living well. Thriving during a particularly hard season of life, for example, requires a focus on the good … even in the middle of loss and sorrow. It’s counting all the ways we are loved while life isn’t going as we’d hoped.

Part of living well also involves venturing out, taking risks, trying new things.

I realize that venturing out will look different for the person in a wheelchair than for Dan and me, but it’s really about being brave and trying something new, learning something new, making a new friend, or stepping into new bit of creativity via paints, plants, hammer and nails, clay, or flour and cinnamon.

It’s so much easier—and comfortable—to sit on the couch and watch other people live adventurous, creative lives than to step into something new or challenging.

When Dan bought the adventure van, we didn’t know how we would do in small spaces for any length of time. (It’s Day Seven, and we still like each other).

Magnolia magazine has a manifesto, and part of it reads:

We believe in courage, in cartwheeling past our comfort zones and trying something a little bit scary every day. We believe that failure needn’t be a negative thing; rather, we learn from our mistakes and fail smarter next time.

Another of my favorite things about our road trip is this:

• Doing next to nothing
  Taking our time, taking side roads, taking naps. Reading books, working Sudoku puzzles, crisping up salmon in a frying pan, browsing through museums and historic lodges, baking scones in our outdoor collapsible oven, hiking a lake trail, sitting at a picnic table, consuming watermelon, polishing off ice cream cones (you noticed a lot of eating there, right?).

This thought from Bobbi Lerman, writer:

Dolce far niento. When I learned it translated to “the sweetness of doing nothing,” it became my favorite expression. … Doing nothing is hard work. It takes intent, focus, and cultivating your imagination.

Some of our time has been spent reflecting on our love story and how God brought us together.

Me: “Three years ago, could you have imagined this season with a new wife, a new home, a new (used) adventure van … and setting off on a three-week road trip?”

Dan shook his head. Nope. None of that was on his radar screen three years ago as a new widower.

Yet, here we are. Driving east toward Custer, South Dakota. Enjoying the new terrain we’ve never seen before and enjoying the company in this compact space.

Right before pulling out of town, Dan and I had breakfast in the restaurant of the historic Irma Hotel, built by William Cody and named after one of his daughters.

Across the street is the Rawhide Coffee Shop and of course the word Chai displayed in large letters on the sign caught my attention. Inside the coffee shop, painted on a small stretch of wall are these words:

Dan and I were made to find each other for this season of life. We were made for venturing out and trying new things. We were made to be who God wants us to be as a team in reaching out to others walking a hard road. Because we both walked a hard road. And we know the way up the steep hills, and around the boulders, and over the tree roots that can trip up a hiker.

Go ahead. Venture out. Focus on doing nothing. Cultivate your creativity, your imagination. Be really great at who God made you to be.